"This is my own blog. I am a six year old
autistic boy who struggles to talk (at this time). My mom has set this
blog up for me. [My mom will write or ask questions in square
bracketts] so you know who is talking until I can tell her to stop
As the school year approaches, I keep getting emails from my nephew.
At the bottom of each email is a P.S. - I can’t wait to start middle
I couldn’t ask for a greater gift because my nephew, who has CP,
didn’t always feel that way about school. In fact, at a young age, he’s
faced inclusion issues. Fortunately he’s in a wonderful school district
that attends to his needs and promotes inclusion.
One of the needs the school recognized is that children with
disabilities need friends, not just helpers. This concept is basic but
crucial. There is a vast difference between using the proximity of
mainstreaming to create helpers or encourage friendships.
Thank you, Jodi, from Reimer Reason, for allowing us to publish your post:
When our children are little they learn new things every day. It seems
that every time we turn around they are learning a new word or a new
skill. When our kids have disabilities, we notice every new
thing they say or do. They have to work so hard and it sometimes takes
so long, as parents, we don't take these milestones for granted.
our children get older, the new skills don't come every day or even
every week. They seem to be few and far between. You will understand
then, my cause for celebration. Yesterday, my teenager rolled his eyes
at me. Yes, there was no mistaking it. We were sitting on the couch in
the living room and we had a guest over. We were chatting about driving
and driver's licenses. I turned to Kellen and said to him, "In order to
get your driver's license, you need to take a big test". That was when it happened. He rolled his eyes at me. It was age appropriate. It was great. I'm celebrating.
p.s. It took ya long enough!
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Not too long ago Steve Kuusisto wrote a post in which he reviewed the book Reasonable People: a Memoir of Autism & Adoption by Ralph James Savarese. Ralph and his wife, Emily, are parents to DJ, now a teenager living with his family in Iowa, emphasis on teenager (I'll tell you why later). Very simply put, this book is about DJ and his life and the lives of those who know and love him best.
I got to thinking about the next Disability Blog Carnival and the theme "If..." that Kara of If the World had Wheels has chosen. Not feeling particularly creative this early in the morning (OK I confess, I'm not a particularly creative person...a second cup of coffee is not going to help) but wanting to contribute to the carnival and support Kara's efforts, I finally remembered one of my favorite passages in Reasonable People, written by DJ himself. Then it dawned on me - I have a post! (Thanks to DJ, whom I've had the pleasure of meeting by the way...)
"I'm reasonable. Polite people make me feel comfortable. Which by the way isn't very often. Reasonable people promote very very easy breathing. Fearful creatures sadden me. Treating me as really weird teases the creatures. Testing real justices I'm treated hurtfully. Very interested in freeing justice not creatures. Justice frees my true self. If someone understands that testing kids might make them resentful testing might be stopped. I'm never going to be like everyone else. People need humanitarian approaches to my hurt mind. Unhurt, responsible, persevering, humorous, mighty people are helping my real, kind, mighty, very smart self." -- DJ Savarese
In my opinion, this teenager, besides being reasonable,is wise beyond his years.
If only we could ALL be this reasonable.
We received the following post fromLawrence Carter Long, who is a well known disability rights advocate in New York City. The article, from England, confirms what those of us
who live with disabilities have long suggested, namely that kids who happen to
have disabilities are indeed just as joyous and richly immersed in life as their